How to prevent transmission loss?

[FriFlo]

While building my home studio control with Max MSP and Lemur, I found out that quite a lot of data gets lost, the more you send to the Lemur. E.g. I have to update quite some menus in lemur with 10 - 25 entries upon track select in my DAW.
Therefore my question: How can I get rid of these problems? I read that OSC via UDP is not a good connection. I must say, it has been rock solid for me, so it works. But what about the lost data? Is there any way to set it up to have no data loss at all? I have a mac pro 2008 (without wifi), a switch and a router with wifi. I am looking into these possible solutions to get no (or at least less) data loss:

- getting a newer iPad (I am on iPad 1, but I don't know if that will solve any of these issues)
- using fixed IP adresses
- getting a better router (no clue, if this will make any difference at all or which model to choose)
- getting an additional router for iPad wifi only (but I have no clue how I would set that up
- sending OSC via cable (I think it would be possible with a jailbreak, but networking w/o cables would be more comfortable, of course

Has anybody been on a similar road? How were you able to solve these problems? An Ad-Hoc connection without internet whild doing music is out of question for me, as ... Hey! It's 2013! Who can live without internet these days!

[m0n0l0c0]

I've been fucked up with the same **** for a long time;
From my personal experience the best solution is with an ad-hoc network.
There must be some kind of machine that does that, but I don't know.

The other option is a new computer.......what a pity.